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| Self confidence | Dear Aunt Lissa I run a small country in Africa, and despite everyone having a million times more money now than they ever dreamed of having, I find I am constantly criticised! I know I have always done what is best for my family, friends, and political partners, and yet I am beginning to wonder why everyone else has been complaining for such a long time, if there is really nothing at all to worry about. I am starting to doubt even myself! Please suggest some ways for me to boost my self-confidence. Troubled, Bob | |
| Dear
Bob You poor victim! Everybody hates you and they are all being mean and ungrateful! I have two bits of advice for you. Firstly, you need to realise that how ever much responsibility you have been given, you are a human and not a god. So making an occasional slip up is just fine. Secondly, the most precious gift we have been given as humans is the power of forgiveness. Once you forgive those who have been scathing and unkind, you can move on and build beautiful relationships. And remember Bob, its not all just about you! Other people may be having a bad day, on account of being bored, or starving. So forgive them, and try to keep your mind on all the beautiful things the future holds for you! Love love, Aunt Lissa | ||
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| Moral dilemma | Dear Aunt Lissa | |
| Dear Confused My my, you certainly sound confused! Just remember, being confused at times is absolutely fine! Its when we are confused that we are so often on the point of achieving some new insight. Here is an exercise you might want to try - imagine your confusion as a big grey fluffy cloud, and then picture it floating away into the distance! And perhaps you are seeing things too much as either/or. Why not use both agencies, and alternate between them? Love love, Aunt Lissa | ||
| Always in the spotlight | Dear Aunt Lissa | |
| Dear JZ. Well it certainly seems you are being victimised! I just don't understand people sometimes. I take a shower just about every day, and never once has it got into the media! Admittedly I have never slept with a friends daughter... perhaps there could be a link between the two?? But enough about me! Anyone who moves into a leadership position becomes a target for what psychologists call projection. People imagine all sorts of things, and then project it onto you in completely irrational ways. Often they are just jealous! So it is common for people like you to be the subject of vicious attacks. The best thing you can do is to completely ignore all the criticism, and focus on your ambitions. Forget about them, and think more about you! Perhaps you could try this exercise (if you are not doing it already!) - just after waking up in the morning, spend a minute or two repeating to yourself "Me, me, me, me..." Love love love Aunt Lissa |